Are you going to get lucky?
So, you’ve been dating this girl for a couple of weeks, maybe months. And you like her; you really like her. Things have been going great, and now you’re ready to the take your relationship to the next level intimately. But is she? Sure, she’s giving you signs that she likes you and enjoys your company, but could those signs mean something else? Does she want to be intimate with you? And if so, does she want to go to third base or hit a home run?
You don’t want to overstep your boundaries by assuming she wants to take the next step. It’s all about communication. Talk about it before making any moves. “The best thing you can do is ask. So talk! Talk about gender roles, sexual messages that you both received, and ask questions. Don’t pressure her, don’t coerce, complain, whine or act like she owes you something because you’ve spent time, money and effort in getting to know her. When she is ready for sexual play, she will engage in sexual play,” says relationship expert Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT.
Talking about your desires and boundaries is key and lessens confusion in a relationship. But if you’re not comfortable with asking her head-on, here are some signs she may give to let you know she’s ready.